There are plenty of articles out there that list reasons for birthing mothers to hire a doula. However, very few of these articles take much time considering the reasons a birthing woman’s spouse or partner may like to have a birth doula around.
This is unfortunate, because while the birthing experience is a deeply personal one, it is also something that your partner likely wants to be a part of. Therefore, it is important to take their feelings into consideration while making preparations for the birth. This does not mean you should allow your partner to pressure you into a negative birthing experience, but it does mean you should listen to what they have to say and consider what your decisions may mean for them.
In this post we are going to examine a few of the reasons your partner may appreciate having a doula during labor and delivery.
#1: Help Getting Involved
Most people don’t know all the ins and outs of the birthing process. Additionally, most significant others will not have experienced birth themselves. This leaves the birthing partner pretty clueless when it comes to helping their laboring loved one.
While birthing classes and plenty of pre-baby reading can help with this problem, they don’t generally include solutions for all scenarios. This is where a doula comes in. Doulas have an enormous amount of childbirth information and experience that can help the birth partner become involved in the process by giving suggestions and explaining various happenings throughout the labor and delivery of their little one.
#2: Assistance When Needed
Even for those partners who are fairly confident in their abilities to support a birthing mama, assistance is always appreciated. Doulas are on standby throughout the birthing process, and they are always happy to help in any way they can.
Therefore, when the supportive partner needs a wet washcloth, or the laboring mama would like something to eat but doesn’t want to be left alone, the doula can offer a helping hand.
#3: Ability to Take a Break
Giving birth is incredibly hard work. However, supporting a laboring woman is also taxing, and while it may not be quite as difficult as actually giving birth, supportive partners definitely deserve some credit. Not only that, but these helpful individuals deserve to have a bit of a break if they feel they need it.
- Unfortunately, when a loved one is in labor, it can feel insensitive to leave her alone to go find a cup of coffee, use the restroom, or just take a quick breather. This means the partner is often unable to take care of his or her own needs.
That said, this issue can be easily avoided by hiring a doula. Because a birth doula is with the birthing mother throughout her labor, she is able to take over for a tired significant other and give them a short break from time to time.
#4: Peace of Mind
Seeing someone you love go through the labor and delivery process can be stressful. There are many things that could happen during labor to cause worry. However, with the help of a doula, supportive partners can have some peace of mind.
This is because a doula is able to let the couple know when to relax about certain situations that may otherwise seem worrisome. She is also able to offer bits of hard-earned advice no matter what situation may arise. Finally, the partner can rest easy knowing that doulas decrease a woman's chances of having a less-than-satisfactory birth experience by 34%.
These are the top four reasons your partner may appreciate a birth doula. You may use this article to better understand your partner’s point of view, or you may use it to help sway your significant other’s opinions on the matter. Either way, I hope it helps you on your journey to a beautiful birth.